The Christian Girl’s Guide to Friendship: Fun, Interactive Book for Preteen Girls

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The Christian Girl’s Guide to Friendship was inspired by my daughter.

I wrote it during her middle school years, when she was working through some of the struggles preteen and early-teen girls face with making friends and learning to be a good friend.

Our conversations gave me a living laboratory in which to re-live the challenges that I had faced decades before when I was growing up: acceptance, appearance, comparison, loyalty, popularity, cliques, boys, arguments, gossip …

During my growing up years, I didn’t have a guide to friendship that was rooted in the Bible. And I wished I’d had one. But now, I could put down on paper all the things my daughter and I talked about – and some of the things I had worked through – and other girls could benefit, too.

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Fun With Friendship

There’s lots of drama with preteens, which meant there was plenty of content to write about. The topic was so timely in our household that I finished the manuscript in 3 months, even as a working mom with a husband who was traveling for work most of the time.

I knew if the book was fun, girls would be more apt to read it. That’s why I presented each biblical principle about friendship in a magazine-style format: as a Q & A, a journal entry, a story, a quiz. There are short, practical devotionals, fill-in-the-blanks, and prayers that girls can use to apply the principle to their lives. Each section includes a fun craft, game, or activity.

Evidently the approach worked because the book has sold more than 50,000 copies.

My Favorite Part of the Book

I included a whole chapter showing girls how to have a friendship with their A.B.F.F. (Absolute Best Friend Forever) – Jesus.

What Readers Say

The Christian Girl’s Guide to Friendship was first published by Legacy Press, a publishing house which was later purchased by Rose Publishing. The book was re-released under the RoseKidz imprint in 2016. It’s part of The Girl’s Guide Series that teaches girls how to connect with God in Bible-based, fun, interactive and practical ways. The Girl’s Guide Series can be used by clubs, small groups, classes, or individual girls.

One of my favorite reviews from a reader says, “The Christian Girl's Guide to Friendship is the only friendship book I've read that talks about the Bible and God too. It says that God is the friendship coach and that Jesus is our best friend. I like that the book has verses in it, but I think it has too many prayers in it. I like the ideas it gives for fixing friend problems. It was a little hard to read because it has so many bold print words. I think that other girls should read it to see what the Bible says about friends.”

(That bit about too many prayers gave me a laugh.)

And from a mom: “My daughter is reading this book along with her friends. They meet once per week to talk about it and to do the craft together. I have noticed a difference in the way they treat each other and new girls they meet. This book has really made an impact in my daughter's life. The book is interesting and really relates to situations that girls are in today.”